When a child is about to enter their teens, they are at the precipice of one of the most important areas of their life. This is especially true for girls because of the fact that there are gender norms that are often restrictive to members of the female gender. Girls have to fight hard against these gender norms in order to be taken seriously.
Indeed, it is at this age that girls start to get molded into the pliable, submissive people that they are expected to be as women. Prior to this they are noticeably confident and true to who they really are. This is why it is so important for parents to start imparting important lessons to girls at this age. Here are some lessons you should give your newly teenage daughter if you want her to live a happy and successful life.
#1 Expressing Themselves
Girls are often considered to be naturally emotional, but they are often also expected to push down their feelings and persevere. It is important to teach them that they don’t have to do this, that they can be expressive of their feelings and opinions no matter what anyone says to them.
#2 Self Compassion
This relates to the previous point. Girls are often too hard on themselves. It is important for them to learn compassion towards themselves so that they can put themselves first in certain situations. They should know that what they feel is natural and that it is okay for them to go through things.
#3 Love For Their Bodies
This means love for all kinds of bodies. Skinny or fat, black or white, tall or short, a girl should be able to love her body for what it is no matter what. Girls get bombarded with images of what they should look like on a regular basis. Teaching them that who they are is beautiful is important.
#4 Sexuality And Gender
A lot of parents think that thirteen is too young to learn about things like this but it is actually the perfect age. Girls are starting to sexually mature at this age and they need to know what is happening to their body and why. Using actual terminology for genitalia is important, and the discussions should be frank and casual.
#5 How Relationships Should Work
Girls are too often put through terrible experiences in their relationships. It is important to teach them what is okay and not okay in a relationship. Teaching them these things early on will help them avoid abusive relationships and people that might take them for granted. It will also help them be better people themselves in their relationships instead of resorting to bullying or abusive behavior.
#6 Leadership Skills
More than anything else, it is important to teach girls how to be assertive and lead people on their own. This will help them make themselves heard in a world that is often rigged against them in some way.